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The 52: Are You Lighter and Happier and More Patient?



Being patient may seem like a trivial thing, especially when we consider gratitude and love and so many other “virtues.” But, make no mistake, a lack of patience results in a lack of peace and wellbeing.  When we are impatient, we have given away the sense of calm and have replaced it with anxiety and “not right-ness.” We are agitated, and who wants that?

Our world, when we engage it too much and take it too seriously, sets us up to be permanently in a state of dis-comfort.  Think of the constancy of the 24/7 news cycle, usually filled with bad news rather than good.  Consider our propensity to compulsively “stay in touch” through texting, emails, and social media.  Everything is happening FAST and, to my way of thinking, this makes patience difficult to attain. 

How about taking some examples from nature?  The great poet, author, and, some would say, mystic, Ralph Waldo Emerson, wrote this:

Adopt the pace of nature.  Her secret is patience.

Where I live, in Connecticut, we have had a long winter and spring has taken its time to unfold.  Is nature saying, “Come on, you daffodils, get up and bloom!” or “What’s wrong with you trees?  Can’t you start budding and spreading your leaves out to the sky?”  Instead, we wait.  Being impatient will not make a difference in the course of nature.  There is a lesson to learn here.

In like manner, we may give thought to “time.”  Some things take time to evolve. William Shakespeare, in his great wisdom, wrote:

How poor are they that have not patience.  What wound did ever heal but by degrees?

When my mother passed away some years ago, I learned that some people believed that grieving had a time limit.  Someone said to me, after three months had passed and I was still sad and feeling loss — well, I just missed her — that I should just “get over it.”  but that is not the way healing occurs.  We all have our own way to heal, and we should relax, be patient, and let it unfold in due time.

Being patient is being kind to yourself and all that is around you.  Try it!

I am a little impatient to find out what you think of this.  Just kidding!

With love and namaste, Deanne

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The 52: Lesson 17 – Practice a Little Patience!



Patience is the companion of wisdom.

Thus spoke Saint Augustine, the Roman Catholic saint and poet, during the 1800’s.  Perennial wisdom does not change with time. Patience, it is said, is a virtue.

Most of my life, I have not been a very patient person.  I wanted things done yesterday.  I suffered because of my lack of patience and my thinking that, by doing more and more, I could speed up time and make things happen faster.  What I accomplished was a perpetual sense of frustration and a loss of living in the present moment.  I was impatient for something to happen in the future. I am happier now as I learn to embrace the gift of patience.  It is an important step..

Take to heart the first quote and these:  The Buddhist philosopher, Dr. Daisaku Ikeda, said this:

With love and patience, nothing is impossible.

Thomas Henry Huxley, the botanist, wrote:

Patience and tenacity of purpose are worth more than twice their weight of cleverness.



It may seem ironic that patience plays such a big role in success.  Remember the story of the tortoise and the hare?  Sometimes moving along at a comfortable pace is better than racing wildly.  Action does not necessarily mean “right” action.  And when you are patient in your endeavors, you save yourself all the anxiety that comes with impatience.  You enjoy a modicum  of steadiness and peace while pressing forward.  You are okay just as you are, even while pursuing goals and dreams.  You let go and surrender the fruits of your labor in honoring the “now.”  This is a whole lot easier than going crazy with fear.  It is fear, in so many ways, that brings on impatience.  If it is time you are worrying about, just forget it. We yogis say time doesn’t exist anyway, but you don’t need to take my word for it.

I promised that these lessons would guide you to a life that is lighter, happier and more loving.  Sometimes we should focus on just resting with an idea, like a sense of gratitude for all that is so abundantly given to you — the sunshine, food, family, friends, the birds in the trees. Other lessons may ask you to take action, like monitoring your thoughts or checking how you are breathing or spending some time in silence or meditation.  Yet there is a commonality in all of this: It is to be patient and love yourselves where ever you are at this moment.  To love yourself, right NOW!

  • When you find yourself impatient to see change, to have an accomplishment, or to change yourself, stop for a moment.  Rest where you are. Decide to see yourself as in the right place at the right time.  You might say to yourself — No rush.  Everything is unfolding in perfect timing.  Breathe and relax, even when you look at that list of goals you may have right in front of your eyes.
  • See yourself with loving and nurturing eyes, as if you could stand witness and view your body and your mind resting calmly and patiently.
  • All in good time, you might say to yourself.
  • What’s my hurry?  Especially if life is eternal.
  • Smile at your impatience.  Lighten up.  You’ll get there when the time is right.

We are not here, in this life, to be tortured with a sense of impatience or to believe that, once we have that “thing” we are impatient to achieve or experience, that then, only then, we will be okay.  You are okay right now.  No waiting!

With love and namaste, Deanne

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