We do not judge the people we love.
So wrote the French existential philosopher and playwright, Jean-Paul Sartre.
These words hold a great fascination for me — and maybe for you as well. If we see a world where everyone is connected in divine spirit to everyone else and that love is the binding element, then wouldn’t we suspend the habit judging of each other? We would still hold the capacity to witness, to stand by in a state of equanimity and observe all that is around us, but we might engage other thoughts in the process. Perhaps we would think of compassion, forgiveness, kindness.
Now this is the best part: If we do not judge the people we love, what about judging ourselves? If we don’t love ourselves then how can we possibly love others? Nothing is more important than learning to love ourselves if we are to spread love from the place within our own hearts.
Remember, we are all on the caravan of love. All of us are welcome. No one is left out or judged or thought to be too small. Groucho Marx, the humorist, famously said:
I would refuse to join any club that would have me as a member.
Many of us would have to admit to this feeling, such is our measure of unworthiness. So let’s just say that, if you want to join the Club, your invitation is waiting and ready. There are no enrollment fees, no tests to take, no monthly minimum, no nothing. You may not know it, but your seat is already there, waiting. With open arms, you are greeted. All you need is a kind and loving heart and the willingness to know who you are in the truth within you. How about it? Can you love yourself enough to join?
Let’s continue some lessons in non-judging:
Whenever you encounter judging yourself, freeze the image you are holding. In your mind, separate from the person in that image. Imagine that you could just watch as a witness. Walk around the one you are judging and engage compassion, forgiveness, equanimity. Let those feelings replace whatever judgment originally resided there. Be kind.
- Take that person, you, and let the circle of love lighten and brighten the one you see. Let it wash away any negative feeling.
- Now see yourself transported into the place where Love is all there is. Into the Club, if you like. Here, you are constantly bathed in the love of all around you. How does that feel?
I can remember times when I said or did something so embarrassing or humiliating and, whenever I thought of that time, my body would literally shiver with anxiety. That feeling took residence in my body and mind all over again. Over and over. I kept replaying it. And for what? To instill the negative emotion deeper and deeper? What a mistake that was.
We will delve more deeply into this subject in the future when we begin actually monitoring our thoughts and erasing the habit of retaining those old images.
How does it feel to stop berating and judging yourself? How does it feel to shine in the light of Divine Love? How does it feel to know that you are, and always have been, loved at the core of your being?
With love and namaste, Deanne
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