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The 52: Are You Lighter and Happier Because of Eternal Love?



Eternal life and love!  Who are you kidding?  Do you really think this is true?

Well, yes.  My answer is, ” I do.”  Because I have direct, personal evidence.

Did you take some time to contemplate what eternal love and life actually means?  Or is the thought of such a thing just over the top for you?  Fora long time, it was for me! 

There were times in my life when I would have thought it such so much “poppy cock” and fantasy.  Come on, we die, life ends, that’s it.  Deal with it!  (Oh, I can even hear my old myself saying things like that.) 

Or, try this, when we die, we go into the void.  There is nothing there.  Just darkness.  But we do continue, in a way, because our bodies deteriorate and nourish the plants and soil.  Here;s another one:  Our lives don’t really end. We continue to exist in the minds and memories of our families and friends and to those whose lives we touched.  We aren’t actually there, but they remember us and maybe we changed their lives in some way in the remembering.

Those sound pretty good to a lot of us.  But what if the truth goes way beyond this.  What if our spirits continue to exist right along with everyone else?  There is a lot of evidence to suggest this is true.  Take a look at near death experiences.  Here’s one: Proof of Heaven, by Dr Eben Alexander, a book by a neurosurgeon who experienced a near death experience himself.  A number one best seller on The New York Times list. Or here’s another, a book that compiled reports of after death communications called Hello From Heaven by Bill Guggenheim and Judy Guggenheim.  Or look at the websites that keep track of these reports.

Okay, you are free to discount all of this.  But wait just a minute.  Did you actually contemplate what your life now would be like if you knew you would not die , but, instead, just transition into another state.  What happens then to all the fear and anxiety we attach to death? And what if that other state was full of love and bliss and you would be totally happy and healed.  Then what?  Just asking…

And in the asking, I really would like to know what you think.

So, for now, remember this — It ain’t over even you think it will be over.  Wow!

With love and namaste, Deanne

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The 52: Lesson Eleven – A Practical Method to Love Yourself More


butterflyblueskyThe measure of love is to love without measure.

Saint Augustine

To love without measure.  Think of it.  No yardstick.  No beginning or end of love.  It is always there, and you need do nothing to be worthy of it.  It is a given in the spiritual world.  You can count on love.  You can take it to the bank.

If this is true, then why do we have so much difficulty in accepting and believing  it?  Why do we seem to be constantly on a search for love?  Why do we feel incomplete, thinking we are without it, even when it is already there, within us?  Love comes with us.  It’s part of the fact of being alive.  But. somehow we have been lead to believe that we have to earn it, that we are unworthy of it, that there is something wrong with us.

In our very first lesson, I asked you to repeat this affirmation – “I love myself completely NOW. ” It was to be stated at all times and under all conditions.  Even when we feel ashamed, angry, fearful, and in situations where we might think that love has abandoned us — especially at those times — we are to say it and let it sink in.

We MUST believe in love.  It is paramount that we know that we are forever loved.  It is crucial that we let go of all doubt in this matter.  Love is the essence of life and the spiritual world.  Love = God.

Now for a way to use your physical body to enhance that love.



Some years ago, I took a course from Henry Grayson, Ph.D.  He is an extraordinary teacher, clinical psychologist, analyst, spiritual healer, meditator, and energy worker, was an ordained minister, and the author of several books, the latest being Use Your Body to Heal Your Mind.  He taught an extended course and from him I learned to fine tune the methods of muscle testing (kinesiology) as a means of measuring levels of  trauma and ego driven unrest in the body and mind and for the discernment of truth.  While we learned about tapping and “touch and breathe” (as used in EFT, emotional freedom technique), and many other modalities for healing, one that has resonated for my students and is easily accessible to anyone is what I call the heart massage.  It is a means of massaging the chest at the heart center and where the thymus gland is located.  So it soothes and draws power in the heart center and stimulates the thymus which in turn increases immune response and healing energy.

There are those times when we feel angry, guilty, upset –a range of emotions — that seem to be steering us away from loving ourselves.  We would say that it is the voice of the ego, that which conveys negative messages thwarting our remembering the love that is ever-present.  You can pretty much count on this — anything not supportive and loving is probably emanating from the ego.  When this occurs, we engage the heart massage.  Here is how to do it:

  • Find a comfortable, preferably private space.  I recommend that you sit down though you could surely do this standing as well.
  • Open your hand so that the palm will be able to be in contact when you begin.
  • Place your hand at the collar bones, palm open.  Begin to move your hand in a clockwise direction, circling on your chest.
  • As you do this, say these words: I deeply love and accept myself even if…
  • To end this statement, you will add to it words that express the ego’s message or whatever seems to be blocking the love that is within you.  For example:  Let’s say someone has said something insulting and hurtful to you and it has disturbed you and made you angry.  You might say the phrase above and add — even if I feel like a fool for feeling bad about those words   Even if I hate that person for hurting me so deeply.  Even if I wanted to retaliate and say something hurtful back.  Even if I felt I could not control my anger.  Even if I fear that people think bad things about me.  Even if — and you run through whatever you feel that is negative, on all levels.
  • When you have exhausted all the feelings, you say I deeply love and accept myself under all circumstances (or no matter what).  Now you stop.  You should feel relief and feel comforted.  You should have released at least some of the negativity.
  • Remember that each time you do this when you are disturbed, you must speak the exact words and all of them.  Each sentence must begin with I deeply love and accept myself.  You are planting this in your mind and heart.

I hope you will try this powerful method.  It works.  So many of my students and friends use it.  If you have questions about it, I am here to help.

More than anything, I want you to value who you are and the love that is already there within you.  The more love the better. Let me know what you think.

With love and namaste, Deanne

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The 52: Lesson Eight — Still Judging Yourself?



We do not judge the people we love.

So wrote the French existential philosopher and playwright, Jean-Paul Sartre.

These words hold a great fascination for me — and maybe for you as well.  If we see a world where everyone is connected in divine spirit to everyone else and that love is the binding element, then wouldn’t we suspend the habit judging of each other?  We would still hold the capacity to witness, to stand by in a state of equanimity and observe all that is around us, but we might engage other thoughts in the process.  Perhaps we would think of compassion, forgiveness, kindness.

Now this is the best part:  If we do not judge the people we love, what about judging ourselves?  If we don’t love ourselves then how can we possibly love others?  Nothing is more important than learning to love ourselves if we are to spread love from the place within our own hearts.

Remember, we are all on the caravan of love.  All of us are welcome.  No one is left out or judged or thought to be too small.  Groucho Marx, the humorist, famously said:

I would refuse to join any club that would have me as a member.

Many of us would have to admit to this feeling, such is our measure of unworthiness.  So let’s just say that, if you want to join the Club, your invitation is waiting and ready.  There are no enrollment fees, no tests to take, no monthly minimum, no nothing.  You may not know it, but your seat is already there, waiting.  With open arms, you are greeted.  All you need is a kind and loving heart and the willingness to know who you are in the truth within you. How about it?  Can you love yourself enough to join?

Let’s continue some lessons in non-judging:

  • Whenever you encounter judging yourself, freeze the image you are holding.  In your mind, separate from the person in that image.  Imagine that you could just watch as a witness.  Walk around the one you are judging and engage compassion, forgiveness, equanimity.  Let those feelings replace whatever judgment originally resided there. Be kind.
  • Take that person, you, and let the circle of love lighten and brighten the one you see.  Let it wash away any negative feeling.
  • Now see yourself transported into the place where Love is all there is.  Into the Club, if you like.  Here, you are constantly bathed in the love of all around you.  How does that feel?

I can remember times when I said or did something so embarrassing or humiliating and, whenever I thought of that time, my body would literally shiver with anxiety.  That feeling took residence in my body and mind all over again.  Over and over.  I kept replaying it.  And for what?  To instill the negative emotion deeper and deeper?  What a mistake that was.

We will delve more deeply into this subject in the future when we begin actually monitoring our thoughts and erasing the habit of retaining those old images.

How does it feel to stop berating and judging yourself? How does it feel to shine in the light of Divine Love?  How does it feel to know that you are, and always have been, loved at the core of your being?

With love and namaste, Deanne

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The 52: A Lighter, Happier YOU – Love Makes the World Go ‘Round

The 52: A Lighter, Happier YOU – Love Makes the World Go ‘Round


Love makes the world go ’round.  This song, originally written in the late 1800’s, has been recorded over and over again.  Disperse versions from ballad, rock, and blues. Perry Como, Madonna, Deon Jackson, and many others have found this title captivating enough to record.  It rings true!

Does  “love make the world go ’round?  What do you think? Many people believe that Love = God, while physicists and astronomers might think something other than “love” makes the world go ’round.  They may think we need something that we can scientifically prove with our logical, left brain thinking.  Here’s what Albert Einstein said in a letter to Gandhi:

I am a scientist.  I trace the lines that come from God.

It’s hard to top Einstein.  But what would a spiritual master say?  Yes! Yes would be the resounding answer.  If creation is about eternal love, then that would be the correct answer, esoteric as it may seem.  Love makes the world go ’round.  Love is the creative force.

What would it be like if you saw Love as the motivator and center of the universe?  Would your sense of reality be different?  What if your sole (or should I say “soul”) purpose were to learn to love yourself  and others? This quote is attributed to everyone from the Buddha to the author, Anne Lamott:

Holding onto anger is like drinking poison

and expecting the other person to die.

Certainly, loving others without condition does not turn you into a doormat.  There are means to stand in your own truth and not drink the poison yourself.  Love and forgiveness play a big role here. We know very well that emotions that are negative affect us and weaken us. Why hold onto the something that is damaging?  Hit the switch! Push the love button.  Make your circle of love bigger and more inclusive.

Here is something to try:

  • In a quiet moment, think of someone (past or present) who evokes negative feelings in you.  Try, for a little while, to witness that person in a non-judging way.  Can you or are you too attached to your own ego emotions?  Walk in that person’ s shoes for a little while.
  • Now extend a loving thought to that person.  Hold onto that love and forgiveness.  See how it feels to you.  What do you experience? Can you embrace them in love?  How does it make you feel?
  • Repeat this exercise as often as needed until it feels okay, comfortable to you. 

Mother Teresa said:

If you judge people you have no time to love them.

So let love flow within you and around you. Let it extend into every chapter of your life.  Let it be the antidote to “poison.”  See what it does in your life.  It might feel like a great relief to let love wash away anger and judgment. If something begins to change within you, enjoy it.  Let me know if you like.   I am here to support you.

With love and namaste, Deanne

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The 52: Lesson Six – Learning to Truly Love Yourself




Throughout our lives, love receives more attention than almost any other four letter word.  It is bandied about.  In a few days, some people will celebrate Valentine’s Day, with cards, flowers, chocolates, maybe negligees, and abundant expressions of “love.”  Love spans the spectrum.  Love of family, friends, country, pets, shoes, champagne, God — we love “love.”  If this is so, then why do so many of us have trouble loving ourselves?  Have we given up?  Did we really do so many “bad” and shameful things that we are forever excluded from honoring, respecting and loving ourselves?

We are all born for love.

It is the principle of existence, and its only purpose.

These are the words of British Prime Minister, Benjamin Disraeli, written in the 1800s. How profoundly true those words have remained throughout time.   Our ONLY purpose is love.  And we must start with ourselves. Only by knowing and loving ourselves at the most deep and spiritual level, can we be at peace.

So far in “The 52” we have engaged several methods to let love for ourselves take hold.  Think of it.  We have tried:

  • An affirmation — I love myself completely NOW.
  • Visualization and imagery — Love flowing into you on every breath, filling you and spreading a circle, as large as you want, all around you
  • Using the mind to give thought to the concept of  love and how to understand it

Now we will expand our thinking even further.  This time we will engage a process of releasing and reprogramming in order to more deeply love and offer compassion and kindness to ourselves.  This is how to do it:

  • Once again, choose a quiet and restful time when you will not be interrupted.  You are going to think of a time when you, yourself, felt bereft of love.  Maybe you were a child and had been reprimanded.  Perhaps you, at any age of your life, felt angry or ashamed.  You might have done something to hurt or harm another person.  It could have been long ago or just yesterday.
  • Now form a picture of yourself  in your mind.  Look at yourself, apart from all the judgments that you may have attributed to yourself in that situation.  As if witnessing this person, you, imagine that you can look at yourself with forgiveness and kindness.
  • Engage your circle of love and let it flow with abundance into the “you” of the past. Imagine that you could hold and embrace, comfort and nurture the “you” you see.
  • Say to the one you have brought into your mind.  “I love you completely right now and always have.”  You know, Divine Consciousness /God has been saying those words all along, but you are now saying it yourself.  Say the words.  Mean the words.  And then, when you are confident that you have healed your past image. let it be released with freedom and love. You may want to repeat this a few times, especially if you feel skepticism with any part of the process.

Notice how you feel after this practice.  See if there is a sense of liberation and warmth.  You can repeat it as often as you wish, with different scenarios each time.  This is a powerful, healing method.  You are, in fact, healing your present self by healing your past self.  In future lessons, we will explore more methods that will use your physical body to aid in healing and loving yourself.

You see, the circle of love is not just for the present moment.  It is beyond time and space, and you have the power to send it forth.  You can love yourself ALL the time. You need not be dependent on someone else to give you this love, it is already yours!

With love and namaste, Deanne

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The 52: Lesson Six – On Eternal Love



Love is the essence of all true spiritual beliefs and paths.  At least, that is how I see it.  In touching the power and energy of that love, miracles occur and all else fades into the background.  LOVE IS IT!  Love is the reason for our very existence and the purpose of our time in the “world.”

In Lesson One, Week One,  I asked you to repeat an affirmation about love as a means to open your mind, thoughts, and heart to a transcendent Truth — that you are loved beyond conditions and in a way that is not altered by time and space.  I love myself completely NOW.  That is the phrase and “mantra.”  Did you say it?  Did you feel the shift? Do you continue to say it?

Now we move to another lesson on love.

Lesson Six  

Eternal Love

If we believe that love is something that is time limited, the pressure to know and experience it gets stuffed into a box.  You better figure it out between birth and death because that’s all you’ve got.  That’s your life on earth. I used to think that until I was pushed — sometimes unwittingly and reluctantly — into a new “reality. ”  Now I know that we have all the time in the “world” and even out of the world, to get this.  You have an eternity to get it.  Love is actually the only thing, ever, you have to get.  But, having said this, why not start right now? This minute!  What is holding you back?

We are speaking of a love that goes beyond everything else.  It is not some saccharine, schmaltzy kind of  love (though that is not excluded), not some cheesy movie idea of love, not some self-serving love that “expects” something in return.  This love is not a negotiation.  It is completely of an open heart that gives without expectation of return.  And this is the best part.  You already possess this love within you, even if you are not aware of it.  You might even be able to share this love after you leave the body.

Six years ago, my dear mother took her last breath, and, under the light of a full moon, she parted the veil and moved into eternity.  My husband and I were by her side, telling her how much we loved her at that moment.  There is so much to say about the miracles that surrounded her passing, but I will only say now that she has sent us hundreds of cheery and funny signs and messages since she departed  this world.  We don’t think of ourselves as mediums or anything  like that so this was kind of surprising to us. After we got over feeling “weird” about all of these “coincidences”, we pondered why these happy messages keep coming.  We could only conclude that my mother is making sure we know that she loves us all the way from heaven (or wherever she is enjoying herself these days).   I would call that a celebration of eternal love.  What do you think?  Has anyone who has passed sent you a sign or message that you saw as a sign of comfort and love to you?

Come on, you might say, we are born, we die, and that’s it.  Life and love, at least for the individual, is contained in that short space of time.  Look, who am I to try to persuade you?  There was a time when I would have agreed, even debated this side of the issue.  But that was then, this is now.  So many “proofs” have come along for me over the last years, and now I firmly embrace the truth of eternal life and love. Mind you, a lot of study and reading has gone into this shift.  Yet the clincher was a burst of wisdom that can only be called an awakening.

Just for a moment, think about what it would mean if you, YOU, were eternal.  And not just eternal, but situated in the light of love.  What does this say to those who have “lost” loved ones and to those who are near death. What kind of hope and joy might that provide, on all fronts?

Here now is the “assignment” for this week:

  • In a moment of quiet, maybe just before getting out of bed or before falling asleep or perhaps as you take silent time to meditate, imagine yourself as a being of light, surrounded by love.  Let it be a circle of love that flows through you and all around you.  Nothing but love moves within that circle unless YOU invite it in.  Feel the safety and comfort in your “circle of love.”
  • You might like to enlarge your circle of love.  Visualize it growing to include your home and everything and everyone in it — your family, your pets, your objects.  Don’t analyze who and what is in it and not in it.  This in UNconditional love.  Everyone is in it!
  • Now enlarge even more, to include your neighborhood or street, then your city or town.  Send out love freely, to everyone and thing in your country, then further to include the whole earth and beyond.  No discrimination!  You cannot leave out those of opposing philosophies or ideas.
  • Here is another way to share this love.  Imagine that it flows all through your past, touching and embracing everyone you have ever known. Then let it move into the future, to everyone and everything you will ever meet in your life.
  • And after these experiences. let it all go, without expectation.  Send it into space, the universe, Divine Consciousness. Let the Love be so great that you don’t need to be attached to it.  Open your heart and let it go…

See this love as huge. Bigger than anything you have ever experienced. You have this power and energy.  Do you think that “little old you” can’t possibly do this?  Think again!  Try it.

It is written in A Course in Miracles:

God is but love

and therefore, so am I.

Ponder that thought and see what happens.

I care what you think and experience.  Let me know. You are, of course, inside my circle of love.

With love and namaste, Deanne

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The 52: Let Your Own Breath Change Your Life!



Listen, are you breathing just a little

and calling it a life?

These are the words of the highly acclaimed American poet, Mary Oliver.  What about you?  Are you taking full advantage of the energy and power of your breath?  Do you pay attention to how you breathe?  In case you missed the last two posts, go back and look at the simplicity of the breathing exercises.  Just a little tweaking could change your life.

Now I ask you to appreciate the miracle of your breath.  Those with illnesses that affect their lungs know how important it is to be able to breathe.  We can feel grateful that we have this capacity.  Enjoy your breathing.  Feel the rising and falling as a constant wave of light and energy.  It carries the gift of life – oxygen.  In yoga, we say it carries what we call prana, the life force.  This prana flows with the oxygen into every cell of our bodies, replenishing and nourishing each one.  Thank you, you might say, to your breath.

Now we have one more lesson on how we breathe. 

  • For optimal health in breathing, we try to do what is called “diaphragmatic breathing.”  If you are breathing high up in the chest, you are not using your lungs to full capacity. Let’s check it out.
  • Put one hand on your chest and the other on your belly.  Is one hand moving and the other not? See if you can feel the belly hand moving more than the chest hand.
  • Notice this:  When you breathe in, does the belly (or diaphragm) go out?  And when you breathe out, does it collapse or go in?  This is what we want.
  • Many people are reluctant to have anything but a totally flat stomach, so they often learn to breathe improperly.  Mmmmm.  I wonder what is more important.

As always, be kind and compassionate with yourself.  No judging allowed!  Only witnessing!  Be patient.  Everything in “The 52” is meant to help you but is NEVER meant to set up a win/fail situation.  You do what you can and smile all along the way.

Remember to love yourself completely NOW.  After all, you have never in your whole life been apart from the kind of love we will talk about again soon.

I am always in your corner, breathing right along with you!

With love and namaste, Deanne

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