People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.
That Abraham Lincoln! With everything else he did, I never knew he made comments on happiness — and profound ones indeed. So you see, happiness doesn’t just happen. It has something to do with how you think and how your mind is responding to your life and world. You can make up your mind to be happy. How liberating is that?
One of the yoga classes I teach focuses on being light and happy. At the beginning of class, everyone takes one of those sticky smiley faces. You know the ones that are usually yellow and they used to be plastered in all kinds of places. “Have a nice day,” might go along with them. They were ubiquitous at one time. I stick my smiley face on the front of my shirt so everyone can see it. I encourage students to stick them on their bathroom mirror, on the dashboard of their car, on their computer, wherever they will see it. It’s a reminder to lighten up and be happy. We need all the help we can get!
Sure, some may think that this idea of happy faces is a little trivial, silly, syrupy, and sentiments like that. I don’t care because I would rather be reminded to be happy than be politically correct or cynical about it. I tried that way (the cynical way) for a long time. All I derived from that was pain and separation. It does not work, especially if you want any happiness in your life.
Many of us say to ourselves, “Well, I will be happy when I find a partner or make enough money or have a new car or buy that special pair of shoes or get my child into the best school.” Think about it. You will always have another “as soon as” and then happiness just passes you by. Happiness is not something that comes from the outside. It is an inside deal. Remember Lincoln said, it is in your mind.
I like this quote from one of the great texts on yoga, the Yoga Vasistha:
One who is happy with whatever clothing he is given,
whatever food he is fed, and whatever resting place he is given,
shines like an emperor.
Think about times when you were especially grateful or happy. What triggered that response? Maybe it was something simple like making it on time to your child’s school play or getting the last seat on an airplane or seeing a squirrel scamper across your yard.
Go way back in time, to your childhood. Something very simple might have been the impetus. I remember being in elementary school and, on the first really warm spring day, how much happiness I felt at going outside to swing on swings and run across the grass.
- Look around you. Really look. I know you will find something around you that can elicit gratitude and happiness. Just sitting here in my office, I am happy that the sun is streaming through the window, that my computer is working, that I have my cup of green tea right next to me. Remember, I said simple.
You can “make up your mind” to be happy, to find something that evokes happiness. You are not tossed about by the circumstances of the world. In fact, you are the world you construct.
With happiness, I wish you a wonderful day!
With love and namaste, Deanne
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