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Are You Loving Yourself Completely NOW? Lesson One


Love is the beginning of the journey, its end, and the journey itself.

These are the wise words of Deepak Chopra, a renowned medical doctor, prolific author, and spiritual guide.  Have you begun the journey of love?  It starts with you, no one else.  By loving yourself completely and unconditionally, the love spills from you and, like a fragrant flower, is enjoyed by all those around you.  You share that love secretly,  like a gift that only you can see.

But maybe you want to share it openly. Perhaps you would like to bring another on the journey with you, like a traveling companion.  Sometimes sharing spiritual practice has a special pleasure all its own. Maybe you want to invite someone — a friend or neighbor, a co-worker or spouse, a parent or a child.  Then you have the chance to support one another.  You can ask “Are you loving yourself completely now and reminding yourself of this as often as possible?”  If conflict arises or it seems hard to remember to stay on track, you can talk about it with a kindred spirit.

Of course, you know I am on this journey with you as well.  You and I are traveling together.  Even though I have followed this practice for a long time, I am giving special attention to this all week.  A few people have remarked on how happy I seem right now.  Could it be the practice?  Who knows?  Perhaps our combined effort is lifting all of us.  I do know that I am having fun! So, if you need to ask me any questions or make comments, I am here.  You do not nor will you ever travel this road alone.

In 1 Corinthians 4 of The Bible, NRSV, it is written:

Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude.  It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing; but rejoices in the truth.  It bears all thing, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

The strength and power of Love is our gift and our blessing. You can count on it, always.

I LOVE MYSELF COMPLETELY NOW!  There, I said it again.  If you could see me, you would know I am smiling

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With love and namaste, Deanne

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Thanks Giving: Joyous Food for the Spirit


       In a recent conversation with a friend, I reflected on my love of cooking.  I said that, if I had a free moment to relax, it would likely be with poring over a recipe or preparing a special meal.  In my mind, I would conjure the process of working in my kitchen preparing something that will nurture and nourish myself and those around me.  I can feel my heart open and a joyousness emerges as I think of the fireplace crackling with warmth, classical music or chants , wafting through the room, a fragrant candle with the hint of apples and pumpkin, and me, chopping and mixing up a blend of home cooked kindness.  This is, in fact, how it is in my Thanksgiving kitchen.

      As I set about to take various ingredients and turn them into food to offer family and guests, I never feel alone.  Instead, my kitchen is surrounded by memories and traditions.  It brims with remembrances of past holidays, generations of those family and friends past and present, of aromas and tables set with foods popular during the time they were offered.  Food provides a sense of community (of communing together) and connecting in ways that only food can evoke.

      I savor a  memory of my mother baking hundreds of Christmas cookies that she gave out to eager recipients each year — everyone from family and neighbors to the post man and the man who took care of her car.  My mother learned cooking, sewing, and other domestic skills from her own mother.  She, in turn, taught them to her eager daughter.  I knew that I was learning a skill but I was also learning a more important lesson. It was a lesson about how to share love with others.  Then, as my mother reached into her late nineties and lived with my husband and me, we prepared many of those same Christmas cookies.  She had grown too weak and fragile to stand at the counter, mixing heavy dough in big bowls. Under her watchful eye and taking her advice, we took the cookies  from the oven and offered them to her for the true taste test. Every morsel was an act of love.

      Though I did not know it then, the energy and attitude of the cook goes into the food itself.  Mixing dough, mashing potatoes, making the sauces — whatever the dish — it becomes infused with the predominant attitudes of the one cooking.  So cooking with attention to attitude is important.  Maybe even offering a prayer or affirmation as cooking commences is a kind gesture in much the same way as offering thanks for the food set on the table.

      Food and eating as a group has traditions that stretch back into the roots of our humanity and are shared in all cultures.  The “communion,” in religious ritual, brings like-minded people together in praise and commonality — perhaps even in rapture.  It is no mistake that food plays such a central role in all the important ceremonies of life.  Think of holidays (holy days) of all persuasions, weddings, anniversaries, funerals. 

      So it is with much love that I approach the preparation of Thanksgiving dinner.  I will offer a prayer of thanks giving for an abundant sense of love, for all in our nation, and in the world, for concern for those without family and home, for those present and past.  And, especially, to my mother, in thankfulness for the lessons she taught me all those years ago and into this very day.

      Happy Thanksgiving to one and all.  You don’t even have to live in a country where Thanksgiving is celebrated each year, you can make EVERY day one of thanks giving.

With love and namaste from Deanne

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