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A Lighter, Happier YOU in 52: Lesson Three – Worrying

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butterflyblueskyAs we open the third week of “the 52,” I have some new information to share with you.

You see the image of the butterfly in the sky, ascending toward the light.  I have chosen this to accompany our course. Here is how I see it: The light is the light of eternal love. The blue is significant to the higher energies within our being.  And the butterfly — not only is it beautiful and a symbol of eternal life, it signifies metamorphosis. 

As  child, I remember my parents put a caterpillar into a jar with lots of leaves.  Soon it formed a cocoon around its body.  In a short time, a beautiful butterfly emerged.   We watched with wonder as it flew off, in all its beauty.  We too are like this. From one form to another, the beauty of our spirits soar into eternity. 

Let me know what YOU think of the image I’ve chosen.

In the first two lessons, we deeply implanted the thought, “I love myself completely NOW,” then we devoted attention to reducing tension and stress signals in the body. Now we turn to a habit and thought pattern that unseats many of us.  We will spend this week learning to find new ways to address that widespread epidemic called worrying!

LESSON THREE

His Holiness, The Dalai Lama XIV said these wise words:

If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry.  If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.

We may know that worrying does nothing good for us, yet we do it anyway. I was expert at it for many years.  I found plenty of opportunities for worry —  about the state of the world, about my health and everyone elses, about my past and future, about money, about family and friends.  I was a “worry wart.”  Worst of all, I thought my worrying was helpful to myself and others.  What a mistake that was.  But it was a habit and habits can be broken.

Just knowing that worrying is not beneficial is not enough.  We must find ways to break the pattern. Here are some ideas to try this week.

  • Let all your worries be placed on a schedule.  For example, when a worrisome thought arises, decide to mark it in your mind to go to the time when you will worry.  Here’s an example: Give yourself worry time, on the hour for three minutes.  During those three minutes you can analyze whether you are wasting your time worrying or, go ahead, worry your head off.  Then STOP.  Worry time is over until the next scheduled worry time.  You can choose your own schedule.
  • Put your worries in the worry box.  Literally, find a box (not too big I hope), and whenever a worry comes up, write it down on a piece of paper and slip it into the box.  Then forget it until you have time to open the worry box.  You are not allowed to think about the same worry again unless you open the box.
  • Sort your worries.  If  they have seemed so important for so long, you might not be able to drop them immediately.  Pick the ones you choose to have disappear.  In time, they might all be gone.

At the same time you are doing these exercises on worrying, don’t WORRY about how you are doing them.  Lighten your body through the stress practice you did last week and continue reminding yourself that you love yourself completely NOW, no matter what is happening.  In the next weeks, we will find new and different ways to break patterns of negative thinking.  But don’t WORRY about it now.

Please feel free to pass these lessons onto to others who might benefit.  My mission is to help and make our lives lighter and happier!  And let me know how you are doing!

With love and namaste, Deanne

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