The 52: Lesson Thirty Four — Love is Divine and Beyond Reason


butterflyblueskyIt is love that gives worth to all things.

These are the words of Saint Teresa of Avila, the Spanish mystic and Carmelite nun who lived in the 1500’s.  They are words of perennial wisdom and deserve attention in any era.

When I was growing up, there was not a lot of talk about love and what it was, what it meant.  It was never clearly defined or expressed.  Our family was quite stoic and of Northern European heritage; the adults were more the silent type.  While I may have felt a commonality with much that was around me, it would never have occurred to me that I loved all of this.

What about you?  Did you grow up with people expressing feelings of love all around you?  If you did, I think that is a fortunate thing.

The great Sufi poet/saint, Rumi,  wrote that

Reason is powerless in the expression of love.

It seemed to me, in those days, that reason was the only way I could get answers and figure out something so confusing as love.  I looked to books and minds greater than my own to define love.   When I read that Erich Fromm, the German social psychologist (in his book the Art of Loving) said that love between people, if it was to be successful, required these elements: care, responsibility, respect, and knowledge (which I can still recite by memory), I thought that was it!  I failed to consider that the answer to my question was readily available in spiritual literature and in so many places outside of the scientific, rational, material world.  I wasted a lot of time, (if time is a notion to be considered), spinning my wheels and suffering in the process.

Rumi also wrote this:

If love is in your heart, you will find your way home.

It is no wonder, then, that when I naively walked into Rumi’s resting place, his shrine in Konya, Turkey, that I got a blast of energy so profound it brought me to tears. I did not have a clue who he was and what was happening, but I knew they were tears of joy, happiness and love.  I needed to be dissolved in love, if only temporarily to know what this kind of love was like.  It  was a turning point, as were many of the new mystical experiences that were unfolding around me.  unbeknownst to me, I was transitioning into a bhakti yogi after all those years in study, as a jnana yogi. But, in truth, while yoga opened this door for me, it could have arisen from many other sources — from Christianity or Judaism or Islam or a myriad of other forms — I was ready to be bathed in love.

Now I am steeped in this love.  It is, at the core of my being, the only thing that matters and is authentic.  I have been blessed with many teachers along the way.  They arose from unexpected places, like the signs and messages and manifestations my mother sent to me AFTER she departed the world.  Recently, only weeks ago, another teacher just happened  to arrive in my life.

My husband and I attended a Fourth of July garden luncheon at the home of dear friends.  When we arrived, our hostess told me there was someone there I should meet, that we were both “spiritual.”  As my new acquaintance and I sat at a table in the shade, surrounded by flowering gardens, she told me instantly that her belief was in Divine Light and Love.  I don’t know about you, but this is not a frequent topic of conversation at most country garden parties.  I felt as if I had met an old friend, a kindred spirit.  We understood one another in seconds.  What grace, I thought. I felt intense gratitude. It was love at first sight — this expression of universal Love.

Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote this:

Every man is divinity in disguise, a god playing the fool.

You never know how or when there will a moment of “enlightenment,” when a spark of Love will be ignited that will alter your perception of everything in your life.  It could be someone you meet, a phrase you read in a book, a quote on Facebook, a sign from someone departed, a scene in a movie, a sunset, a porpoise swimming next to your boat.  It could be anything!  But your senses must be open for it.  Here are some ideas:

  • When you meet someone, in any circumstance, try imagining that you are looking at a soul rather than just another person.  See them through eyes of Love.
  • Take a few moments, or as long as you can, to experience everything around as infused with love.  Make that the words you are reading now, the chair where you are sitting, the device you are using to read this, the clothes you are wearing — everything. Then do this practice several times a day.
  • Soften your present, past and future with feelings of love and acceptance.  Set aside your “normal” mind based reactions.  You can go back to them whenever you want.
  • Now see yourself sitting in a pool of Divine Light, surrounded by Love.  Say to yourself: I LOVE MYSELF COMPLETELY NOW, then spread that love out to the space around you.  This, by the way, is not very different from circumstances  described by those who have near death experiences.  They feel complete and total unconditional love.  You can do this while in this life.  You don’t have to nearly die to know it.

I hope you will give serious attention to this subject of love.  If I can be of help or you have thoughts you would like to share, I am here for you.  Just ask.

You see, I know who you are.  You may be in disguise, but I know that you are the essence of Divine Love.

With love and namaste, Deanne

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About deannemincer

Deanne Mincer has been a long time student of religious and spiritual studies. For many years, she was a practitioner of yoga and in the late 1980's she was drawn to share her enthusiasm by becoming a yoga teacher. Her certification, from the Himalayan Institute, was a comprehensive two year program including the study of anatomy, diet, nutrition, Ayurvedic medical practices, the methods of teaching hatha yoga, the science of breath and the study of raja (the royal path of yoga) philosophy. She has taught yoga, meditation, and spiritual classes for more than twenty years. In the mid 1990's she became a follower of Siddha Yoga where she experienced a spiritual awakening called shaktipat and her teachings took on a new and freshly informed understanding. As Deanne continued her studies, she learned level one in Reiki and also sutdied with Henry Grayson, Ph.D. where she refined her work with muscle testing and the complex of energy healing methods Dr. Grayson has developed for use with his patients. Dr. Grayson's work is illuminated in his books, Mindful Loving and Use Your Body to Heal Your Mind. Deanne teaches group and private classes in yoga as well as stress reduction programs and meditation in many forms (sitting, walking, whirling, meditation in action, and "sleeping" meditation called yoga nidra). She has developed methods of using yoga in treating those with life threatening diseases as in the programs she designed for Gilda's Club and Friends in Deed in New York City. She was a consulting producer on an alternative health program for CNBC's Alive and Wellness, and she has demonstrated yoga on network television. Deanne created the audio DC, Inner Light Yoga with Deanne Mincer and she has spoken widely and demonstrated meditation in many venues. Deanne is an enthusiastic and joyful teacher. She is known for the keen interest she takes in her students' physical and spiritual development. She stresses that each student should work at their own pace in a non-competitive and caring environment. You can read some of the comments her students have shared in the Tesimonials Section of this site. Her teaching is grounded in her own steadfast spiritual awareness - that each of us is a being of eternal light and love and that we can all come to knowing this truth for ourselves. She is eager to help guide you on this joyful path of body, mind, breath and spirit.

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  1. Beautiful. Even in the most difficult moments in life it is possible to kindle that feeling of love, that connectedness to something divine and feel peace and beauty. My parents ‘died’ some years ago now and yet I never mourn their loss as they are with me and bathe me in love all the time. Every time a bird comes near or I see a beautiful flower I feel their love. You can run through all the teachings and methodologies forever and a day and nothing has more to teach you than pure and simple LOVE.

    • Thank you for your lovely note. Your words about love and your parents so touched my heart. Feeling that eternal love is a gift to be cherished, just as I am sure your parents cherish you and delight in sending signs of their love. You are so right, after all the study and all the practices is comes to one truth – all is LOVE.

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