The 52: The Sense of Touch — Even From Far Away


butterflyblueskyHave you noticed how you are influenced by the sense of touch?  Were you surprised at both the subtle and more intense responses that are evoked?  If you followed the suggestions in our earlier lesson this week, you reached a new awareness.

I am  keenly aware of the bonding created by touch and sound and sight in my interaction with one of my cats.  Dilly, our handsome tuxedo cat, is now quite elderly and ailing with many illnesses.  Despite his frailty, I know that he responds in a positive way when he sees me, hears my voice, and when I touch him.  In his condition now, this is the most important connection I can offer.  We are both nourished by these acts of love.

It seems that we have reached a time when physical proximity with those we love and care about is often impossible.  At one time, most families and friends remained in the same communities for their whole lives.  Now family members and friends live in other cities, states and even in different countries.  How do we “touch” each other?  One of my friends uses the term “touching in” when she communicates by email.  Under certain circumstances, it may be the best we can do to touch each other.  While it is probably better to speak on the phone or “Skype” one another with visual contact, this is not always possible.

You can still “touch” each other through words and thoughts of kindness, support, concern, and love.  It is better to do this than nothing at all.  Here are some ideas:

  • Send a card or letter to someone you love.  It is almost a novelty now to use “snail mail.”  One of my friends writes long letters on a regular basis.  She is an artist, so she includes drawings and other expressions of her artful way of “touching” others.  We are made happy whenever we see that something has arrived from Linda.
  • Communicate by email or by other means.  Forward a funny photo or an meaningful quote that will bring positive energy to others.
  • For someone you want to “touch” when you are not present, ask someone to be your messenger, maybe a spouse or a caregiver.  Some years ago, when my elderly mother was living with us, we went on a trip that would take us away for some time.  A person who helped us as a caregiver for my mother stayed with her the entire time.  Before we left, I purchased  special cards, each with a handwritten note, to be given to Mom each day.  My husband had a long-standing joke he and my mother shared.  Each day he would secretly give her a piece of saltwater taffy, something she enjoyed.  I say “secretly” because the idea was that I did not know about this; I had a kind of reputation for serving “healthy foods.”  So, while we were gone, our caregiver gave mother a piece of taffy from Richie, her secret taffy agent, everyday.  At least this was a special way of “touching” Mom with a special remembrance to cheer her. Oh, and a hug was to accompany all of this.

Be creative.  And, by the way, don’t forget yourself.  Book a message if you can.  Reach out and touch others whenever possible.  Touching goes two ways. Or maybe even more ways — how about a group hug?

With love and namaste, Deanne

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About deannemincer

Deanne Mincer has been a long time student of religious and spiritual studies. For many years, she was a practitioner of yoga and in the late 1980's she was drawn to share her enthusiasm by becoming a yoga teacher. Her certification, from the Himalayan Institute, was a comprehensive two year program including the study of anatomy, diet, nutrition, Ayurvedic medical practices, the methods of teaching hatha yoga, the science of breath and the study of raja (the royal path of yoga) philosophy. She has taught yoga, meditation, and spiritual classes for more than twenty years. In the mid 1990's she became a follower of Siddha Yoga where she experienced a spiritual awakening called shaktipat and her teachings took on a new and freshly informed understanding. As Deanne continued her studies, she learned level one in Reiki and also sutdied with Henry Grayson, Ph.D. where she refined her work with muscle testing and the complex of energy healing methods Dr. Grayson has developed for use with his patients. Dr. Grayson's work is illuminated in his books, Mindful Loving and Use Your Body to Heal Your Mind. Deanne teaches group and private classes in yoga as well as stress reduction programs and meditation in many forms (sitting, walking, whirling, meditation in action, and "sleeping" meditation called yoga nidra). She has developed methods of using yoga in treating those with life threatening diseases as in the programs she designed for Gilda's Club and Friends in Deed in New York City. She was a consulting producer on an alternative health program for CNBC's Alive and Wellness, and she has demonstrated yoga on network television. Deanne created the audio DC, Inner Light Yoga with Deanne Mincer and she has spoken widely and demonstrated meditation in many venues. Deanne is an enthusiastic and joyful teacher. She is known for the keen interest she takes in her students' physical and spiritual development. She stresses that each student should work at their own pace in a non-competitive and caring environment. You can read some of the comments her students have shared in the Tesimonials Section of this site. Her teaching is grounded in her own steadfast spiritual awareness - that each of us is a being of eternal light and love and that we can all come to knowing this truth for ourselves. She is eager to help guide you on this joyful path of body, mind, breath and spirit.

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