The 52: Lesson Eleven – A Practical Method to Love Yourself More

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butterflyblueskyThe measure of love is to love without measure.

Saint Augustine

To love without measure.  Think of it.  No yardstick.  No beginning or end of love.  It is always there, and you need do nothing to be worthy of it.  It is a given in the spiritual world.  You can count on love.  You can take it to the bank.

If this is true, then why do we have so much difficulty in accepting and believing  it?  Why do we seem to be constantly on a search for love?  Why do we feel incomplete, thinking we are without it, even when it is already there, within us?  Love comes with us.  It’s part of the fact of being alive.  But. somehow we have been lead to believe that we have to earn it, that we are unworthy of it, that there is something wrong with us.

In our very first lesson, I asked you to repeat this affirmation – “I love myself completely NOW. ” It was to be stated at all times and under all conditions.  Even when we feel ashamed, angry, fearful, and in situations where we might think that love has abandoned us — especially at those times — we are to say it and let it sink in.

We MUST believe in love.  It is paramount that we know that we are forever loved.  It is crucial that we let go of all doubt in this matter.  Love is the essence of life and the spiritual world.  Love = God.

Now for a way to use your physical body to enhance that love.

LESSON ELEVEN

TO LOVE AND ACCEPT YOURSELF

Some years ago, I took a course from Henry Grayson, Ph.D.  He is an extraordinary teacher, clinical psychologist, analyst, spiritual healer, meditator, and energy worker, was an ordained minister, and the author of several books, the latest being Use Your Body to Heal Your Mind.  He taught an extended course and from him I learned to fine tune the methods of muscle testing (kinesiology) as a means of measuring levels of  trauma and ego driven unrest in the body and mind and for the discernment of truth.  While we learned about tapping and “touch and breathe” (as used in EFT, emotional freedom technique), and many other modalities for healing, one that has resonated for my students and is easily accessible to anyone is what I call the heart massage.  It is a means of massaging the chest at the heart center and where the thymus gland is located.  So it soothes and draws power in the heart center and stimulates the thymus which in turn increases immune response and healing energy.

There are those times when we feel angry, guilty, upset –a range of emotions — that seem to be steering us away from loving ourselves.  We would say that it is the voice of the ego, that which conveys negative messages thwarting our remembering the love that is ever-present.  You can pretty much count on this — anything not supportive and loving is probably emanating from the ego.  When this occurs, we engage the heart massage.  Here is how to do it:

  • Find a comfortable, preferably private space.  I recommend that you sit down though you could surely do this standing as well.
  • Open your hand so that the palm will be able to be in contact when you begin.
  • Place your hand at the collar bones, palm open.  Begin to move your hand in a clockwise direction, circling on your chest.
  • As you do this, say these words: I deeply love and accept myself even if…
  • To end this statement, you will add to it words that express the ego’s message or whatever seems to be blocking the love that is within you.  For example:  Let’s say someone has said something insulting and hurtful to you and it has disturbed you and made you angry.  You might say the phrase above and add — even if I feel like a fool for feeling bad about those words   Even if I hate that person for hurting me so deeply.  Even if I wanted to retaliate and say something hurtful back.  Even if I felt I could not control my anger.  Even if I fear that people think bad things about me.  Even if — and you run through whatever you feel that is negative, on all levels.
  • When you have exhausted all the feelings, you say I deeply love and accept myself under all circumstances (or no matter what).  Now you stop.  You should feel relief and feel comforted.  You should have released at least some of the negativity.
  • Remember that each time you do this when you are disturbed, you must speak the exact words and all of them.  Each sentence must begin with I deeply love and accept myself.  You are planting this in your mind and heart.

I hope you will try this powerful method.  It works.  So many of my students and friends use it.  If you have questions about it, I am here to help.

More than anything, I want you to value who you are and the love that is already there within you.  The more love the better. Let me know what you think.

With love and namaste, Deanne

For more thoughts, go to www.deannemincer.com

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About deannemincer

Deanne Mincer has been a long time student of religious and spiritual studies. For many years, she was a practitioner of yoga and in the late 1980's she was drawn to share her enthusiasm by becoming a yoga teacher. Her certification, from the Himalayan Institute, was a comprehensive two year program including the study of anatomy, diet, nutrition, Ayurvedic medical practices, the methods of teaching hatha yoga, the science of breath and the study of raja (the royal path of yoga) philosophy. She has taught yoga, meditation, and spiritual classes for more than twenty years. In the mid 1990's she became a follower of Siddha Yoga where she experienced a spiritual awakening called shaktipat and her teachings took on a new and freshly informed understanding. As Deanne continued her studies, she learned level one in Reiki and also sutdied with Henry Grayson, Ph.D. where she refined her work with muscle testing and the complex of energy healing methods Dr. Grayson has developed for use with his patients. Dr. Grayson's work is illuminated in his books, Mindful Loving and Use Your Body to Heal Your Mind. Deanne teaches group and private classes in yoga as well as stress reduction programs and meditation in many forms (sitting, walking, whirling, meditation in action, and "sleeping" meditation called yoga nidra). She has developed methods of using yoga in treating those with life threatening diseases as in the programs she designed for Gilda's Club and Friends in Deed in New York City. She was a consulting producer on an alternative health program for CNBC's Alive and Wellness, and she has demonstrated yoga on network television. Deanne created the audio DC, Inner Light Yoga with Deanne Mincer and she has spoken widely and demonstrated meditation in many venues. Deanne is an enthusiastic and joyful teacher. She is known for the keen interest she takes in her students' physical and spiritual development. She stresses that each student should work at their own pace in a non-competitive and caring environment. You can read some of the comments her students have shared in the Tesimonials Section of this site. Her teaching is grounded in her own steadfast spiritual awareness - that each of us is a being of eternal light and love and that we can all come to knowing this truth for ourselves. She is eager to help guide you on this joyful path of body, mind, breath and spirit.

2 responses »

  1. Wonderful. Are you planning to publish a 52 week guide? It would be a great reference to have on hand:)
    xoxo,
    Caron

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