The 52: Lesson Six – Learning to Truly Love Yourself




Throughout our lives, love receives more attention than almost any other four letter word.  It is bandied about.  In a few days, some people will celebrate Valentine’s Day, with cards, flowers, chocolates, maybe negligees, and abundant expressions of “love.”  Love spans the spectrum.  Love of family, friends, country, pets, shoes, champagne, God — we love “love.”  If this is so, then why do so many of us have trouble loving ourselves?  Have we given up?  Did we really do so many “bad” and shameful things that we are forever excluded from honoring, respecting and loving ourselves?

We are all born for love.

It is the principle of existence, and its only purpose.

These are the words of British Prime Minister, Benjamin Disraeli, written in the 1800s. How profoundly true those words have remained throughout time.   Our ONLY purpose is love.  And we must start with ourselves. Only by knowing and loving ourselves at the most deep and spiritual level, can we be at peace.

So far in “The 52” we have engaged several methods to let love for ourselves take hold.  Think of it.  We have tried:

  • An affirmation — I love myself completely NOW.
  • Visualization and imagery — Love flowing into you on every breath, filling you and spreading a circle, as large as you want, all around you
  • Using the mind to give thought to the concept of  love and how to understand it

Now we will expand our thinking even further.  This time we will engage a process of releasing and reprogramming in order to more deeply love and offer compassion and kindness to ourselves.  This is how to do it:

  • Once again, choose a quiet and restful time when you will not be interrupted.  You are going to think of a time when you, yourself, felt bereft of love.  Maybe you were a child and had been reprimanded.  Perhaps you, at any age of your life, felt angry or ashamed.  You might have done something to hurt or harm another person.  It could have been long ago or just yesterday.
  • Now form a picture of yourself  in your mind.  Look at yourself, apart from all the judgments that you may have attributed to yourself in that situation.  As if witnessing this person, you, imagine that you can look at yourself with forgiveness and kindness.
  • Engage your circle of love and let it flow with abundance into the “you” of the past. Imagine that you could hold and embrace, comfort and nurture the “you” you see.
  • Say to the one you have brought into your mind.  “I love you completely right now and always have.”  You know, Divine Consciousness /God has been saying those words all along, but you are now saying it yourself.  Say the words.  Mean the words.  And then, when you are confident that you have healed your past image. let it be released with freedom and love. You may want to repeat this a few times, especially if you feel skepticism with any part of the process.

Notice how you feel after this practice.  See if there is a sense of liberation and warmth.  You can repeat it as often as you wish, with different scenarios each time.  This is a powerful, healing method.  You are, in fact, healing your present self by healing your past self.  In future lessons, we will explore more methods that will use your physical body to aid in healing and loving yourself.

You see, the circle of love is not just for the present moment.  It is beyond time and space, and you have the power to send it forth.  You can love yourself ALL the time. You need not be dependent on someone else to give you this love, it is already yours!

With love and namaste, Deanne

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About deannemincer

Deanne Mincer has been a long time student of religious and spiritual studies. For many years, she was a practitioner of yoga and in the late 1980's she was drawn to share her enthusiasm by becoming a yoga teacher. Her certification, from the Himalayan Institute, was a comprehensive two year program including the study of anatomy, diet, nutrition, Ayurvedic medical practices, the methods of teaching hatha yoga, the science of breath and the study of raja (the royal path of yoga) philosophy. She has taught yoga, meditation, and spiritual classes for more than twenty years. In the mid 1990's she became a follower of Siddha Yoga where she experienced a spiritual awakening called shaktipat and her teachings took on a new and freshly informed understanding. As Deanne continued her studies, she learned level one in Reiki and also sutdied with Henry Grayson, Ph.D. where she refined her work with muscle testing and the complex of energy healing methods Dr. Grayson has developed for use with his patients. Dr. Grayson's work is illuminated in his books, Mindful Loving and Use Your Body to Heal Your Mind. Deanne teaches group and private classes in yoga as well as stress reduction programs and meditation in many forms (sitting, walking, whirling, meditation in action, and "sleeping" meditation called yoga nidra). She has developed methods of using yoga in treating those with life threatening diseases as in the programs she designed for Gilda's Club and Friends in Deed in New York City. She was a consulting producer on an alternative health program for CNBC's Alive and Wellness, and she has demonstrated yoga on network television. Deanne created the audio DC, Inner Light Yoga with Deanne Mincer and she has spoken widely and demonstrated meditation in many venues. Deanne is an enthusiastic and joyful teacher. She is known for the keen interest she takes in her students' physical and spiritual development. She stresses that each student should work at their own pace in a non-competitive and caring environment. You can read some of the comments her students have shared in the Tesimonials Section of this site. Her teaching is grounded in her own steadfast spiritual awareness - that each of us is a being of eternal light and love and that we can all come to knowing this truth for ourselves. She is eager to help guide you on this joyful path of body, mind, breath and spirit.

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